YOUR DAILY PRESCRIPTION OF POSITIVITY: AVOID THE GOSSIP

Now this one is a hard one! Me personally, I’m not into drama, not into starting it and not into hearing about it (too much), but make sure you are never contributing to it! If you can, avoid even spreading it further, that’s where the negativity comes in.

Gossip can come from all ends of the spectrum, family, friends, classmates, employees, the list is never ending. Sometimes it can be super interesting and other times it can be extremely cruel. I think it’s just best to say, avoid all gossip PERIOD. The best way to go about doing this would be to put yourself in that person’s shoes. I always try to think of what they may be going through, how we are different and why I really have no right to comment on their personal life.

Of course we all are going to gossip at some point in our lives, we are all human. Sometimes it’s just to vent about how we feel in a heated moment and other times it’s just because it got to the best of us. My advice would be to make sure the person you confide in is someone with great loyalty and trust to you. Gossip becomes extremely negative when it’s put in the wrong hands and is then spread like a wildfire.

So next time you find yourself running into some gossip, take a step back and try to put yourself in the other person’s perspective for a minute. Then realize how you would feel if you knew gossip about you was being spread and be the bigger person that puts a stop to it. It’s one thing to vent to someone how you’re feeling about a certain situation that you are personally involved in. It’s another thing to spread the gossip that you heard about someone else and turn something that was meant to stay private into something public.

Your Daily Prescription of Positivity: Give Yourself A Break

I know how easy it is to get caught up in the many things we need to accomplish within the span of 24 hours. Whether that be vigorous to-do lists, chores, errands, or even just going to work and completing all that needs to be done there!

Life can truly throw so much at us all at once. When you start to feel stressed out because you feel you need to get these things done and you just can’t seem to catch a break, stop for a minute and like I always say, TAKE A DEEP BREATH. Realize all that you have at that very moment, grasp the fact that you are ok in that moment. Everything is as it should be and there is no reason that you should need to complete everything all in one day.

Prioritize your to-do’s and make sure you give yourself some YOU time in between. Give yourself some time to unwind and relax and enjoy the life you’ve built for yourself. Remind yourself daily to not get so caught up in the hustle & bustle of life, it’s a hard thing to snap out of. Let’s slow it down a little to enjoy life more.

Your Daily Prescription of Positivity: Focusing On Yourself

For today’s daily dose of positivity; reminding you to focus on you!

Don’t get caught up in what everyone else is doing because at the end of it all, they are their own person, with their own mindset and they make their own choices! That’s something we all have to accept, we can only guide someone so far and I know from experience how frustrating it can be when they choose not to listen to your advice.

By focusing on yourself and putting yourself first, you are placing you back in control of your life. At the end of the day, you are the only person that decides for YOU and sometimes we need to remind ourselves of that.

To wrap it all up, if you find yourself getting frustrated with someone, with how they’re behaving, with the choices they’re making, stop and take a deep breath. Then remind yourself, you can only focus on the choices you make because that is all you really have control over. There is no need to frustrate yourself with things out of your control and when we realize that, we can find peace and happiness and most of all, we can rediscover positivity!

How to Figure Out Your Passion in Life

My Personal Experiences

So to give you a gist on what I’ve experienced on this topic. My very first job was at Panera Bread, I had never even eaten there before I had the job, at that point I was just looking for some money to pay off my second speeding ticket (my lovely brother paid my first one for me), I was currently a business major. I was there for about 2.5 years and at 2 different locations. I then moved on to Landstar, a transportation and logistics company while I was in college and that is where I changed my major to computer science. I was there for almost 3 years before I quit and never looked back. I then moved on to social selling and graduated with a psychology degree and now I’m a blogger and a substitute…

As you can see I have been all over the place both school wise and career wise. All this proves is that I am not afraid to keep trying new things. Each major and career change were vast in comparison and with each experience I ended up finding a little bit more of myself in the process. A new part of me becomes uncovered and I learn more and more about myself as I continue to grow and venture out to new adventures.

Being Open to New Experiences

So my first tip here to you is to be open to new experiences! You don’t want to wake up in 20 years and regret NOT doing something. Don’t live your life with “what ifs”, just go out there and take that chance, especially if it’s being handed to you as if it were a sign for you to try it out. I always say, if it scares you, then it might just be worth doing. Anything new and exciting is scary at first, you may think you’re not good enough, you don’t have the qualifications, but if the opportunity presents itself, who are you to turn it down by being your own worst critic? Do not end up complacent in your life! Or in other words, do not be stagnant, never moving forward or backward, just staying exactly where you are, forever. I personally don’t think that sounds very appealing and I’m sure a lot of you lovelies are thinking the same thing. We all want to have the sense of higher purpose in life, the sense that we are working towards something greater in the outcome, but to get there you have to get out of your comfort zone and grow and be open to the new experiences that come your way.

A Few Tips on How to Open Yourself Up to New Opportunities

Alright so here are a few tips that I’ve used to open myself up to new opportunities that have crossed my path during my life.

Tip 1: Do not hold yourself back with imposter syndrome!

For those of you who may not know what imposter syndrome is, it is the feeling of not belonging, the feeling of “so many other people are doing this already, why would anyone want to listen to what I have to say?”, which is a very negative view of things. This is just a natural self-defense mechanism that protects you when you feel scared of trying something new. If we can eradicate fear within ourselves, about ourselves, then we would have no self doubt in our abilities and simply go for that opportunity!

Tip 2: Realize that you will be starting at the bottom

For some reason, we all think of all the luxurious things we can have and do when we make it to the top, and then tend to get bummed out when we realize we have to start at the bottom first. Starting at the bottom is not an easy task, especially if you are switching career paths at an esteemed age where you have already had many accomplishments, we all must start from square one in anything we do. My tip is, do not let that discourage you! If anything, you should be walking around feeling like a bad ass because very little people will take that leap of faith in themselves and switch their career paths when they are unhappy. Many people think they may be “too old” or, that it’s “too late” for them to start something new. Well guess what, life is short, and you should not have to sit around in a situation that makes you less grateful for your life. Do something about it and make that change! Pay your dues and be proud that you have the courage and confidence to do so!

Tip 3: List all your favorite things you like to do in life

By taking down a list of all your favorite things to do in life and then relating them to different career paths you could take, you are creating a new path for yourself by zoning down on how many different directions you can really go in life. For example: Me, I love organizing, planning, being around children, being positive and sharing what I learn on how to be positive, being social and a light to others and cleaning. If you relate each of those things that I love to a career path you would have several different outlets of opportunities just waiting for you!

Do Not Be Afraid to Fail

Lastly, do not be afraid to fail! There is no success without failure, and to me failing means you are doing and you are learning from those mistakes, in other words, you are living. If it ends up that the new career path isn’t what you expected, do not see that as a failure. You tried it out and you gave it your all (I’m assuming) and it just turned out that it wasn’t for you, that is fine! Because in all reality, most people don’t even try, and in that fact alone, you are already a success.

Failure holds us all back in various different aspects and even just the fear of failure itself. Everyone fails in their life at some point or another. But we must remember, that life is all just trial and error and as long as you are learning something new along the way you should always view that as a win. Every experience is a new learning journey, you will learn more about yourself by trying different things in this short life and you will only be one step closer to reaching your full potential after each and every attempt. You never know what’s in your future and you could be on the path to finding your true purpose right now. So make sure you don’t have the door slammed in it’s face and BE OPEN AND ACCEPT IT!

Positivity as a Lifestyle

I’ve worked endlessly learning how to evolve my mind to try to realize the bright side in every situation & to comprehend the fact that if you are in control of your mind you are essentially in control of everything that goes on in your life. So many people find it difficult to accept this small piece of knowledge because they wonder how that could possibly be true.

Well, being “in control” of your life does not mean you control what happens to you and when or where, it simply means that you have the control in HOW you react to every situation that occurs in your life. You can either choose to react in a negative manner, blowing up in a rage and doing or saying things that will not benefit you in your future and only cause more damage & harm. Or you can choose to react in a positive manner, by slowing down and taking a few deep breaths, thinking about how you will respond and then proceeding to the action, after it has been well thought out, leading to an overall more positive result.

Of course this skill does not develop overnight, this takes lots of trial and error & self-discipline to master and even then you will still find yourself slipping up every now and then. But the important thing is noticing when you are slipping up and correcting the mistake. I for one have put this into practice and have found myself being happier and overall more positive because why worry or anger yourself over something that you can not control? We all need to realize and focus on the parts of our lives that we can control and find peace and happiness in that alone.

I can’t remember how many times I heard something that messed up my plans in some sort of way and I instantly just exploded with anger. I felt the world was against me but now I realize that if I had just taken some time to slow down and think over the news, I would have been able to realize there were several positives to come out of the situation as well. It always depends on how you choose to look at things. Of course you can always point out every negative detail in the situation and just sit in your own little angry bubble but honestly, who is that really helping? It’s not helping the other party and it definitely is not helping you. If you can just sit down and work your hardest to find the “bright side” in every predicament you find yourself in you will noticeably evolve into a more positive person, just as I have myself. Do not allow things that are outside of your control affect you, that is how you win at life.

Another tip to really live up to the “Positivity as a Lifestyle” motto, always be kind to others. You never know what the other person may be going through, you don’t know their back story, you don’t know what they have on their plate or what kind of news they may have just received. My tip is to always be considerate and never pre-judge someone. If they are being rude to you for what seems like no reason, stop, think and then react with kindness in return, they will appreciate it in the long run and sometimes they may even stop in their tracks and apologize. It’s so simple to just be kind to those around you, to me it seems 10 times harder to hold a grudge with someone and to stay angry, let all of that go, forgive and move on with your life. Nobody is perfect and we are all going through our own personal struggles. I for one don’t ever want to add to the struggles of another human, I would rather be that light they confide in and are thankful for at the end of a long day.

These 2 small tips can literally have such a massive affect on every person in our community, so much that the world could even start to harmonize and find that flow of peace and happiness amongst themselves. A world with less drama, with less fighting, less arguing and less negativity would be such a wonderful place. I always strive to be an all around radiant soul, a light to others, don’t be the person that strives to be the opposite. I challenge you to complement one person every day, whether it be superficial, such as complementing their outfit, their hair or more genuine, complementing their personality, their mind. You will feel a deeper sense of happiness just from all the smiles you receive in return. I challenge you to tell everyone in your family you love them for no reason today, tell your friends how much you appreciate them. There shouldn’t have to be a reason to brighten up somebody else’s day, these are the things that humanity forgets. If we can remember to just be kind, positivity as a lifestyle wouldn’t seem so far fetched.

3 Ways to Add Gratitude Into Your Daily Routine

People never take the time to slow down and look at what’s right in front of them anymore. We are living in a world where if you don’t receive instant gratification, it’s not worth it. A world where we are so used to moving and rushing through things for our “future” but in the meantime we forget to look at what’s right in front of us and we find ourselves not being happy because we don’t have what we think we want yet. So here’s a few tips on how I stop myself from living in that endless cycle of unhappiness and remind myself, it’s a marathon not a sprint.

1. Slow Down

Well if we all just took some time to slow down and look at the things and the people we do have in our life and realize that we have all come so far and have already accomplished so much we may be a little more grateful for everything. It’s so common to get caught up in working towards the future, we forget to recognize the little accomplishments that we make along the way. I’m here to remind you to do just that, slow down and appreciate life a little more often. Don’t wait until a tragedy has occurred to look back and recognize all that you had, do yourself a favor and do that now, before it’s too late. If you have been waiting to do something because you’re waiting for the “right time”, well.. That time just doesn’t exist, go out there and do it because no one is promised tomorrow. This is your now and this is your life, make it count by making sure you are putting those that matter first always.

2. Write it Out

I like to participate in the daily activity of writing out what I am grateful for. Every morning before I start my day I get out a pen and paper and I write at least 5 things or people that I am grateful for and why. It’s a great way to start out your day on a positive note. Never take anyone or anything for granted, life has a tendency at changing in just one blink of an eye. Things that you feel entitled too, not everyone has those things. Not everyone can say they woke up warm in a nice bed, with a roof over their head, some people can’t say they woke up to everyone they love still here, some people can’t say they woke up to the great smell of bacon and eggs cooking, some people can’t say they woke up at all that day. It’s the small things that we as the human population tend to forget to be grateful for. So every morning start your day by showing gratitude and reminding yourself of the things you are thankful for instead of focusing on the things you don’t have.

3. Meditate More Often

Meditation isn’t for everyone, but it doesn’t have to be as serious as you see in the movies. It could simply be taking 5 minutes out of your day to close your eyes and think about what brings you happiness and what you are doing that day to continue moving forward on that path. The longest I’ve ever meditated at once was about 15 minutes & I think that was more than long enough, but at the end I was so at peace with myself. Everything that had me high strung and stressed out just disappeared and I had to remind myself why I was doing all this in the first place. Never forget your true meaning and reasoning behind the things you are working towards. It’s so easy to get caught up in the numbers and the social status and the positions and the titles, but those are all just superficial things. When we give ourselves some time to stop and remember why we started doing these things for in the first place, that’s when the true reasons will come back to the surface. Some of us are working so hard to provide for our children, for our families, for ourselves. Meditating for even just the 5 minutes will help you to really put what’s important to you back in perspective. If you are serious about giving this a real shot, I recommend downloading the Headspace app to start you on your journey, you can click the link below to be redirected to their desktop site.

In The End

In the end it’s up to you as an individual on whether or not you will incorporate these few simple tips into your daily life. I know from personal experience that these 3 things are game changers. Imagine starting your day every day being thankful, feeling grateful for all that you have. Nothing can get in your way that day because you are just a radiant soul sharing that light with all those around you! I’m not sure what your agenda is like, but I for one strive towards being a light to others and being a radiant and positive soul in this dark & meaningless society. Don’t become complacent with the world around you, take charge of YOUR life and make it count!

What Am I Currently Listening To?

The quickest answer to your question: “Is There A Place I Can Go” by Trudy and the Romance.

This has been my song playing on repeat for a couple days now. I’m the type of person to listen to one song endlessly for hours on end, day after day. Especially if I need time to think, when a song repeats so many times I find myself tuning out the lyrics and just listening to the beat, which gives my mind the chance to wander off and really explore the thoughts in my head. I actually have an entire playlist dedicated to me zoning out to be able to be alone with my thoughts.

I love finding a song that really lets me feel how I want to feel because it just complements my life so well and it honestly feels like my own personal background music to my life, you know like how they do in the movies. I’m a little dramatic that way, but it is the best outlet for me to truly express how I feel in that moment. This song just makes me appreciate life a little more, helps me to reflect and is perfect on a beautiful Spring day, like today actually. I run to this song in the morning, I write to this song in the afternoon & I roll down all my windows and just drive to this song at night. This is a song that you can just drive aimlessly for hours with no real direction in mind, late at night with your most favorite person in the world. The kind of song that you put to videos of you and your friends on a crazy summer night, the one where you are all just scream singing in the car and making waves with your arms out the window as you drive. This is the song that makes me look back on all the amazing times in my life and just smile.

I usually end up tying a certain emotion to a certain event in my life to the one song that I choose to be my outlet. So whenever I hear that specific song, I can just remember exactly what I was feeling at that time in my life and be able to feel how I want. So when I want to think or feel a certain way just to remember, I will play that song and be able to go back to that moment in my life, no matter how long ago it was. I’m not sure if anyone else really does that or not but it really does give me a deeper feeling of peace.

During this time in my life I have found a few songs that have comforted me. I’ve never dealt with this big of an emotional earthquake, so instead of just one song, I’ve found a few to help me remember and express each emotion. This is definitely a happier one for me, one where I can feel content and just be outside and look around and be so thankful for all that I have. This song makes me feel grateful for my life and makes me evaluate everything that has happened, it reminds me that nothing can change the past and I just have to keep moving forward now. It gives me that sense of hope again and helps me think of all the good times rather than focusing on the bad.

So, that’s what I’m listening to for right now and will probably be listening to it for some time to come. I’m interested in hearing what “your song” is at the moment and the story behind it as well. I realize you may not relate to this song as strongly as I do but please share the song that you are strongly attached to, I would love to give it a listen!

3 Reasons Why I Started My Blog

2021 has brought in a new wave of fresh new blogs and I’m happy to be one of them! A lot has happened lately and writing has definitely been a positive outlet for me, so I am ecstatic to finally be getting on track of doing something that I truly love and doing something that brings me peace of mind.

Reason #1

The main reason I decided to start my blog was because writing has always been my passion. I could sit at my desk on my MacBook and just write for hours! Writing was always my favorite subject in school and during college & I always got A’s on all my essays because writing them came with ease. I was actually kind of disappointed that my schooling has come to an end after getting my Bachelor’s because writing was always my favorite portion of it. I thought I would lose my favorite outlet, but then I thought, why not start my own blog? That way I can write on whatever topics interest me and share my love for writing with my followers!

Reason #2

Another reason why I decided to start my blog was to gain that freedom from societal standards. I am tired of everyone thinking there is only one way to be deemed “successful” in this day and age. I did go to college and I have my Bachelor’s Degree, but guess what, I was not happy in my chosen profession, which is so common. I have been on the hunt for a new way to make money that is more in terms of the 21st century. More in line with being able to love what I do and still be able to have a life as well. I’m tired of work always coming first because life is short and I would hate to live my entire life working to be able to live. I want to live up to my life’s full potential and sitting behind a desk working towards someone else’s dreams was not it for me.

Reason #3

Lastly, I decided to start my blog because I’ve always felt that I was put here to make some sort of difference in this world. Whether that be affecting just one person’s life who reads my blog in some positive way, I would be beyond happy. I know that all my knowledge, my thoughts, my perspective, my mindset, is all meant to be shared with others in this world to help positively change lives. I have always believed in positivity as a lifestyle and I am determined to share that light and that energy with those who choose to be apart of my blogging experience. Blogging is just the start of how I plan to make an impact and it’s one I am very eager for and have put off for much too long.

What Grief Really Looks Like

I decided to write on this topic because I am currently experiencing it myself and what better point of view to read from then from someone who is currently undergoing it. Just a short back story on my situation to give you a glimpse of where I’m at.

Ending 2020 we thought was a blessing, we all laughed and kicked 2020 out and welcomed 2021 with joy, little did we know this would be the most difficult year to pass. January 24th, 2021 my oldest brother Manny of 25 years had passed in a tragic motorcycle accident. It was all so unexpected, the accident happened at 12:04 a.m. but we weren’t notified until after 2 a.m. and when all met at the hospital we soon realized that this really was his last moments with us. The doctors said there was nothing more they could do and the only reason his heart was still beating was because he was on life-support. That day still feels like it was only yesterday, I can still see him laying on the hospital bed, unrecognizable. The only thing that has been keeping any of us going and looking forward to the future is awaiting the arrival of his first child, a sweet babygirl due in June.

So now that you understand my situation a little more I can start speaking on my experience with grief. We all know there are the “5 stages of grief” listed as such:

Denial – “This cannot be happening” stage

Anger – “Why is this happening to me” stage

Depression – “Why should I go on?” stage

Bargaining – “I’ll do anything to fix this” stage

Acceptance – “I’m going to be okay stage

Looking at these stages I’m not really sure which stage I personally identify with currently. I feel as if my entire world has shifted and what once was important to me, I no longer care for. My main focus is being there for my niece to make sure she knows how much she is loved.

January has dropped several bombs on me and my family. We all had covid for the first 3 weeks and had to quarantine and then the 4th week we lost my brother. It’s been one thing after another, then 2 weeks after his passing we spent getting all his things in order and making sure his service was something he would have loved. I was very proud and happy with how it turned out, I know he would’ve loved every part of it.

Now that all the busyness is gone I find myself left with a lack of motivation to get back to my daily responsibilities. I find myself feeling lost, not knowing what I want to do with my life, not knowing how to feel. For the first 2 weeks I would identify more with being in the denial stage. Now I feel like I’m in the mix of the anger and depression stages, I know now that there is no “one” stage or feeling, they are not gone through chronologically. I have been going up and down and back through each stage, each day is different.

My brother was a very strong minded individual who did not care what anyone else thought of him, he always spoke his mind and stood up for what he thought was right. He always put his family first and loved what he did and the biker group he was apart of. He was so excited for his first child and was already preparing to be a great father. Sometimes I feel like he’s going to walk in the door at any moment and that he’s just late to the party, like always, or he’s on the way or just in the other room. I hate thinking that I’ll never see him again. He’s been by my side my entire life, I never imagined a life without him here.

I’ve been reading a lot on grief and I can relate to many of the symptoms. I feel very disoriented and I have a hard time concentrating on things and focusing on what’s happening around me. I find myself spacing out and not really hearing what’s being said to me when I try to hold conversations with others. All I can say from my experience so far is that I have a long way to go. I’m grateful for all the memories I have and I know he would not want us to mourn for him, he would want us to celebrate him and be there for his daughter and his family.

So that’s what I’m focusing on. Staying positive and looking forward to meeting my niece. Everyone deals with grief differently and the time it lasts is different for every individual. I know I just have to take it one day at a time. I just want to remind others who are going through something similar that it’s completely normal to feel any emotions you are feeling during a time of grief, it’s important to realize that. Do not feel guilty for having a good day, because you deserve that and don’t let anyone tell you how you “should” be feeling, emotions are raging through you right now and it’s vital that they are expressed and not kept in. Lastly, make sure you have your person to talk through your ordeal with and make sure you find your healthy outlet to relieve your stress.

Please comment any advice you may have during a time of grief and loss, I am open to any positive outlets or personal stories of your own experiences.

Self Love: What is It & Why is It Important?

We’ve all heard the term “self-love” before, but many of us don’t really know what it means. Some people think it’s just the hashtag used on social media, “Self-care Sundays”, where all you do is a facial and take a long bath to relax after a long stressful week. That can very well be one part of of self love, but that is not at all the full depiction of the true meaning of self love. So what is the true definition of self love and why is it important?? Let’s dive in!

What is Self Love?

Self love means having a high regard for your own well-being and happiness. It means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others. That is just a very generic definition but self love can mean something different for every person. If you are taking action to take care of your mind, your body and your soul, that is you protecting your well-being in life. That is you creating a better future for yourself by ensuring that you are healthy on the inside as well as the outside. Some people meditate, some people have weekly or daily reflections, some people take the initiative to consistently workout, read, journal. There are so many different aspects on the question of “what is self love”. The important thing is that you get all the definitions and define it yourself, create your own version of self love and practice it religiously.

Why Self love is so Important

Let’s start with my own personal version of self love. I like to wake up early every morning, workout, eat a healthy breakfast, listen to a podcast episode of my choice, read for 20 minutes minimum, journal and then meditate. I personally have a very vigorous self love routine and this is merely just my morning routine. But I consistently stick to this routine because I have noticed a difference in not only my personality, but my mindset and my health as well! I am very grateful to work for myself and to make my own hours so I do find it easier to make more time for my self love routine and being consistent with it.

Now…. Let’s talk excuses! I know very many people have to actually drive to work, or have children that get up early and they have to help them get ready for school and even if we are working from home, we find ourselves in the same struggle of “not having enough time”. Well, let me snap you out of that terrible habit right now and say the following. If you do not make time for yourself throughout the day, if you do not make it a priority to take 60, 30, 15 or even 10 minutes out of your day, every day, to reflect on what YOU want, to think about YOUR future and to remember what YOU are grateful for, then you will find yourself being stuck in the same endless cycles of life for years and years to come! When you neglect your own well-being to please those around you, you are really only putting a disservice on those people around you, because if you are not reaching your full potential, what makes you think those around you will? You must lead by example and put yourself first!

We all need some time to ourselves, we all have daily stressors and responsibilities, but it is those 1% of people who intentionally make time for themselves to focus on their well-being, that live a full and joyful life and are truly happy. They do not settle for the current circumstances that no longer serve them, they do not wait around for “luck” to change their situation, they do not wish they could do this and that and then make several excuses as to why it’s simply impossible for them to do something. It is NEVER impossible to do something, it is simply your mindset surrounding the thing itself. If you truly believe in the importance of self love and what it can do for your life, you will make time for it. For example, let’s replace the phrase “I don’t have the time for self love” with “I don’t see the value in working towards and accomplishing my dreams for my future”, that just makes you cringe a little bit! If you can read that and still feel fine then I cannot relate, honestly. I find it extremely scary of living the same day on repeat with no hope for my future. We were all put on this Earth for a reason, to express our passions and reach our full potential in life, we were not placed here to merely exist.

Self love is going to make all the difference in your life, when you find an amazing book and apply what you learn, it’s those little changes that will evolve into a huge and life changing difference! When you listen to those little podcast episodes every morning when you are showering or driving to work, it will leave you feeling more motivated, positive and ready to conquer the day. Wouldn’t it be nice to be in control of your life again? That is what self love is! Self love gives you the keys to your life, the power to turn pain into purpose and the power of responding in a constructive way to the hard times in life. Everything and everyone has a purpose in life and it is up to that person if they choose to reach their full potential or not. If they choose to put in the time and dedication to be the person they aspire to be. If they choose to use their talents and put it to good use!