Summer Time ‘Gladness’

Hey all my lovelies, just a little update. I am officially done with my corporate life, back into the food and hospitality, but honestly I am loving it. I feel like I’m getting a chance to live my life again. I’ve taken care of all my responsibilities that have always held me accountable and I feel that now is my time to take advantage and to let loose and live a little.

Also, I got a personal trainer…. It’s a love-hate relationship. Hate the workouts because I am being pushed way further than I ever have physically but I love the results that are coming along. Not to mention the major mood boost it provides. In other news, me and Gabs are working on our new venture and coming in June we will officially be diving in 100%. We’ve stayed up a lot of nights getting everything together for this and I feel that this is going to be a game changer to a new way of living for the both of us.

Booked a trip to Hawaii, trying to go to South Dakota for the Sturgis Rally, possibly booking a trip to Vegas soon and definitely going back to Puerto Rico this Christmas. Oh yah and of course my good ole Clearwater trip to scope out where me and Gabs want to set up camp LOL. This year has been very sweet to me.

What I’ve learned so far is this, there is no need to stress over the things you do not have or the people that do not like you. If you put out into the Universe what you want, manifest the things you want and the relationships you have, everything will fall into place. Stop stressing about money and just go out there and put in the work and IT WILL WORK OUT. The Universe simply returns the energy you give.

Lastly, don’t forget to enjoy your summer!! The sun is beaming extra heavy this year, so lather up in that the sun screen and get outside. Ride your bike, go to the beach, buy skates, cruise on the longboard, pool days, star gaze. Do it all, because you never know when your last day will be and I damn sure want it to be a great one!

LIVE FAST, DIE LAST

I was cruising around while working my second job as a party stylist and I noticed this sticker on the car in front of me, “Live Fast, Die Last” and that stuck with me a little. I am finally out of my corporate job and I honestly never plan on returning to a corporation again. At least not in the aspect of working in a cubicle or being glued to a computer doing work that has no meaning to me. I want to truly live, I don’t want days and weeks and months to pass me by and nothing of significance occurring. I want to make memories each and every day and spend my days with only true and honest people who love me and I love them!

I am young, 24 and single, no kids and no ties to any one location and most importantly I am independent and support myself. This is my time to FRIGGIN LIVE!! Time to live and have no regrets and the time to always be excited for whatever is to come next. I am on the hunt for turning my passion into my income and living the life I’ve always dreamed of for myself. Traveling and living outside, seeing the world and surrounded by good-hearted people – GOOD VIBES ONLY and LIVING IN THE MOMENT! Don’t get caught up in things that don’t matter. It doesn’t matter how much money is in your bank account, it doesn’t matter how many things you have or what car you drive or what phone you have. Because at the end of it all, the only things that people will remember about you is how you lived and how you impacted their life, the memories shared between y’all. The only way to do that is if you are living!

I refuse to live a life with no meaning, a life where I have made no impressions on anyone. I refuse to live days and weeks and months with no significance in my life, or working everyday with no real adventures in between. I am not here to work, I work to live, I work to have the means to provide myself with adventure and spend those adventures with the ones I love most. Everything else just doesn’t matter. I don’t want to get to be old and be filled with regret, I want to know that when my time comes I will have no regrets because I am choosing to live every single day. I hope y’all are too! <3

NEW CHAPTER, NEXT SEASON

Guys… I feel I am entering a new chapter in life. I put in my 2 week notice at my corporate job today and secured my new job as a waitress with a best friend. I am pursuing alternative entrepreneurial ventures and event assisting. I am getting prepared to go back to school. I am anxious for all the changes that are coming up soon in my life but am also so very excited because I know this is a new chapter for me!

Nothing worth doing was easy and if you’re not scared then you’re not growing. I just have to get through these last 8 days with my corp job and the new season begins! This new season features less mental stress, more physical health, more financial growth, living more and interacting with people. Enlightening my mind by studying something I know I can be great at. Traveling, being with friends and being selfish while I still can and of course, being grateful every step of the way.

I’m tired of trying to live up to the standards of society, to the woman I always dreamed of being back when I was 8, because times have changed and a lot has happened in my life – I want different things now from when I was at 8! Therefore the version of me I need to become is going to be different as well. I have lived up to my 8 year old dreams and it turns out, that lifestyle is not me anymore. It’s time to broaden my horizons and truly live my life exactly how I feel. Here’s to a new chapter and the next season in my life!

Quarter Life Crisis

I’m sure you have all heard of a mid-life crisis, but what about a quarter-life crisis? It may be an uncommon term but it is real and I’m pretty sure many of us are either currently experiencing it or have in the past. But yes, I would define myself as currently in the eye of the hurricane of just that – a quarter-life crisis.

I am still stuck in the corporate cycle and not to hate on those who lead and love that type of work, but it is just not for me! I’ve been feeling that I have no purpose in what I am doing and I am just a puppet with my strings being pulled by chaotic and immoral management. Now, I am over the line of burnout and am on a deranged hunt for any other job that can replace my main income source so I can get the hell out of there. Under payed and over worked with little employee moral, hella stress and migraines and being easily dismissed by management. I am at my wits end.

So, aside from frantically applying to all and any other type of job, I have also applied to go BACK TO SCHOOL. I never thought I would ever hear (or in this case, see) those words come out of my mouth! I’ve just now realized that if I want a fresh start in a career that I can express any one of my many passions in, then I will need to go back to school. I will need to get a degree in it before I can even get my foot in the door for the profession itself. The best part of it all is that I do NOT have to waste any time on taking General Education requirement classes as my first degree has me covered in that area. I can dive right into the core focus of interior design and get into the work field within 2 years!

Not gonna lie, my first time around in college was rough. I was very, VERY, emotionally unstable and along with that, having a wishy-washy boyfriend for the entirety of my college career – causing lots of failed finals and 0’s on a plethora of assignments due to our on and off situation. Lots of tears and then also studying something that I wasn’t really passionate about – solely in it for the money. Now this time around, I am on my own, single, independent and have a much better grasp on my emotions, and I am ready to dive in to something that I have a growing passion for and can really truly see myself thriving in. AND I AM BEYOND EXCITED!

In the meantime I just need out of my current nightmare management situation and into something that is more “go with the flow” to get me by on livelihood responsibilities. All while studying to do something that will light a fire in me to become the person and professional I knew I always could become.

Wish me luck!! I’m gonna need it. Love y’all and you will be hearing back from me soon.

LIFE IS MEANT FOR LIVING

Sooo I just quit my second job. I asked for a schedule change so I wouldn’t have to work every single weekend, since I already have another full time job, which meant that I was working everyday for 7 days a week! They said no so I left. I’m not cut out for that, for missing out on beautiful days and moments with my family all for some extra money that I will be just fine without. So I quit and I’ve never been happier!

Ever since my brother passed I have no time for enduring anything that doesn’t bring me joy. Life is meant for living and that is exactly what I intend on doing! #NoRegrets. I can’t tell if that’s a toxic trait or just plain liberating.. But I’m sticking with liberating, freeing, living life. Also it will give me the opportunity to focus and re-center on the things and the people that matter most to me. Get back into the gym, sunsets and sunrises, star gazing, writing and reading and enjoying the weather. All the things that make life so memorable. So ecstatic!

I’ve also decided to leave the Hometown Girl phase behind once my current lease is up. Headed to Clearwater this time next year and with everyone’s support and sweet words of encouragement, I am ready to finally be able to live my life exactly how I want. Anyone who knows me knows that I’ve been dying to get out of Jax since before I was 18! But life just kept happening and I felt for so long that I couldn’t leave, but this timing feels so perfect. Some call me more “worldly” now, I’ve lived and I’ve lost and this move is going to be a new beginning for me!

There’s my little update for this week! Slacking on getting my key west pics up, but with all this newfound free time I’m sure I’ll get it done this week!

AUTHENTIC

Just logging in to give you a mini update on life. I went on my amazing girls trip to the Keys, pictures will be up soon! So much fun but ended in a little spat, but everything has been cleared up and back to normal. Now just slowly getting back into the flow of normalcy. Work, gym, work again, journal, study, getting over my cold etc. etc. – just trying to keep up with all my goals and really just living.

Reminding myself that being my raw and authentic version of myself is nothing to apologize for. On my lazy days I find myself feeling bad that I didn’t go to the gym or meet any of my daily goals and I have to remind myself that it is OK. I am allowed to have down days, slow days and lazy days. As long as I don’t make them into a habit and as long as I snap back to my reality the next day. I am always going, going, going and when I stop, my mind instantly tells me “I am failing”. I’m not sure why I have that kind of mentality or if other people feel the same way… I find myself constantly thinking about what I want to do next, where I want to go and who I want to be and I often find myself forgetting to appreciate where I am right now. I am exactly where my 8 year old self had always pictured myself to be RIGHT NOW and that high-key blows my mind! So all these wants and desires for my future just remind me: As long as I am making small steps every day – getting 1% better each day – I will reach the end goal and be exactly where I know I am meant to be.

So yes, slow days are okay, to remember and be thankful and grateful for all that you have already accomplished. Just make sure you don’t stay stopped, stuck, or frozen – keep it moving and just keep it steady. Just be you!

Logging off now my lovelies. Hope everyone is having a spectacular week and enjoyed this FL rainy day just as much as I have!

Unbothered

I am so thankful that I have somewhere to go and someone to distract me and help me to forget all the pain and drama and senseless bullsh!t that goes on in my life. I got a chance to not think about my feelings, my life issues, the drama, and it was all so peaceful. So peaceful to just remember, even if temporarily, what it’s like to not have to deal with it all. To not have to walk on eggshells or feel guilt or shame for not wanting to put up with that anymore.

I really want to find my way through this because I know it truly is holding me back severely. I know now, more than ever, that I do want to move out of this city, I’m not sure where yet, but I know I don’t want to stay here forever. But I just don’t want to move and feel like I’m running. Running away from people and problems. I want this all handled and sorted away, at least for me and my mind so I can move for the simple fact of wanting to live somewhere new. A new place to be freely me & independent because I know I will thrive. I know I’m not meant to be in this city forever!

I am determined to flip this script and come out on top with a victory, to be the hero in my own story. I’m done letting the opinions and perceptions of others define my thoughts, my feelings, my self-worth and me! I define who I am, the only perceptions that matter are my own, the only feelings I’m worried about are my own! I’m done with the people pleasing and worrying about how what I do may or may not affect others and their feelings. I will not cause any drama in regards to my separation. I will simply choose to fade away in the background, unnoticed and unbothered. Unbothered by anything that is not me because 2022 is my year and I deserve that sh!t.

Where I’ve Been Lately

Since I’ve been on hiatus, I felt it necessary to give you all a little update on what’s been happening in my life before fully diving back into the blogging world.

My Work

Last you all heard I was on my way to becoming a teacher, that is no longer the case anymore. Unfortunately I did not qualify to get my Certificate of Eligibility and I’m sorry but, I have no interest in returning to school, that chapter is closed permanently. So on to the next adventure! I am now working for a home mortgage company as a Loan Processor with one of my cousins! It seems to be the perfect fit for me, it gives me so much freedom to still have a life and be involved with my family and I actually love learning about all the processes and the industry itself. I told myself I would stick with this industry for the long run because I am extra tired of the job hunting. But the good thing about this job is that I love it and I can make this into a great career for myself and it still lets me appreciate my inner values of being with my family while still working towards my future goals !

My Family

As you all know, I lost my brother back in January. It has been a roller coaster of emotions, with its fair share of ups and downs. At first the family was all united but somewhere deep down I knew that wouldn’t last long. Some members have gone their separate ways, others I just needed to separate myself from the negativity for a while in order to help myself properly heal. I don’t think it’s selfish to make yourself the priority in your own life, especially when it comes to dealing with the grief of a close immediate family member. All I can do now is pray for them and love them from afar.

I’ve been on my own path, surrounding myself with like-minded people. Focusing on my goals and making sure that I appreciate every moment given to me. I make sure I’m extremely involved in my family and that I am creating memories with each and every person. Because honestly, the only thing that’s left behind when you’re gone, the memories you’ve shared and the love that was given.

My Current State of Mind

I’ve just been focusing on the here and now. I think of my brother literally all the time and I make sure I do my best to keep his memory alive. I’m making a scrapbook of him that’s very in detail of all our memories that we shared together. I spend pretty much all of my time with Maelyn and make sure she and Madison know they are loved and supported. I live life as if it were my last day, I have more sleepovers with my friends/family. I go to watch the sunrise at least once a month, I plan spontaneous trips to travel and to experience new things and I always tell my people that I love them. I also started CrossFit because I’m tired of waiting “to start tomorrow”, I want to be happy with myself both physically and mentally and it has been a great experience so far and I feel so much stronger and happier with myself.

Manny has truly taught me the meaning of “life is too short”, you hear it all the time and still believe that you are the exception. But no one is safe from time, it keeps going even when you don’t. So I try my best to enjoy all the little things and all the people who support and love me, the people that create my own personal safe haven from all the drama and distress in today’s world. I always do what I think is right in my heart and I always do what’s best for my mental health and well-being in the end. My motives are always aiming towards a more positive life, no drama just love and peace. I’m exactly the person I believe myself to be and I will keep being that person.

My Plans and The Blog

So my current plans for my future, which change often, are as follows. I plan to grow within my company and become a Loan Officer, something that’s already been in the works training wise and I’m so lucky to be in a company that believes in me and wants to see my succeed. I plan to continue being extremely involved with all my family members and I plan to continue furthering my knowledge by reading books and going to church and just experiencing things in life and truly living, not just letting time pass. I plan to keep going strong and make the vision that I have for myself and my family a reality. Whatever it takes.

This post is my official reactivation of the blog. I plan to only post weekly, because daily ended up feeling like a chore. Although the main focus of my blog is positivity I plan to incorporate more of my life and personal experiences into it, in hopes that I can make it more personable and relatable. I plan to stay consistent now that I am better adjusted to my new life and the new family additions and losses and I hope I can make a difference in someone’s life by speaking from the heart always.

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VISION BOARDS

What is a vision board and why should you have one?

A vision board is something that you can use to pin up all your wants and desires that your little heart can think up! It’s something to remind you of what you are working towards or what you’re grateful of. It’s a physical/digital reminder that has the purpose of motivating you, even on the hardest of days.

A vision board is meant to be inspiring, so don’t put any negative connotations on there. For example, if your goal is to lose weight, you wouldn’t want to “motivate” yourself by putting the worst picture of yourself up there. You would want to post a picture of yourself when you feel you were your most healthiest and if you don’t have one, go through some magazines and find someone with similar features and the goal body you want and use that one. This can be applied to all aspects of whatever you post onto your vision board. The goal is to uplift and build up your confidence, not to tear yourself down or be reminded of any failures.

Another quick tip before you get to work. A vision board is not limited by fears or what ifs or the word “impossible”. A vision board is to put any single thing that you desire and know you can get if you just worked hard enough. So don’t dull it down by your “reality” of things, because anything can be accomplished if you work for it. If you change the way you think, it will change your beliefs and in turn, it will change your reality.

So let all your heart’s desires come out with your vision board and start manifesting everything you want in your life!

How to make your own vision board!

So now let’s get into the good stuff! How to make your own vision board!

  1. Determine the main goal or goals that you are creating your vision board for.
  2. Find magazines, clip art, specific images from the internet or Pinterest that you can contribute to your vision board that goes towards your end goal.
  3. The tedious task of actually cutting out said images.
    1. I’ve found that making the vision board in collage form is more beneficial than square cut pictures, yes it takes more time on the cutting but it will totally be worth it!
  4. Start arranging your pictures on your board and get a feel for how you want the layout to be like.
  5. Take a quick picture of how your board looks like once you’ve added all your images so you have something to reference if they move out of place.
  6. Now, find a glue stick, some double-sided tape or even some Mod Podge glue and start sticking them down! Stick them down with some purpose! You don’t want anything falling off!
  7. BONUS: I like to throw some glitter on top of mine as the finishing touch
  8. Now hang that bad boy up where you will see it EVERY. DAMN. DAY! To remind yourself of what you’re working for and to keep you motivated and inspired!

HAPPY VISION BOARDING!

Everything You Need To Know About New Year’s Resolutions

So me and my business partner Gabby have actually made a resolution to get ourselves out there on our instagram platforms this year. So we are doing a Live series where we go Live once a week, on Wednesday’s at 6PM EST, in case you were wanting to tune in, answering the most commonly asked questions on the web! This week’s topic…. You guessed it!! RESOLUTIONS! So let’s dive into the good stuff!

Who Invented Resolutions?

According to the worldwide web, it was the Ancient Babylonians who are said to have been the first people to make New Year’s Resolutions, some 4,000 years ago! I found that to be quite interesting that resolutions have been around for such an extensive amount of time!

Why Resolutions Are Important!

Resolutions are important because it gives people something to look forward to and keep working towards. Making a resolution shows that you have the belief & the hope in your abilities to change damaging habits & become an overall better version of yourself!

Essentially it’s how things get done! Treating your resolution like a goal that needs to be accomplished. I’ve even read that resolutions are the language of the brain. In other words, the executive function of the brain, or a cluster of cognitive abilities, which has evolved enabling us to set & achieve goals. This brain function is what sets us apart from any other living creature! We don’t just live life on auto-pilot, we actually take action based on planning.

Setting resolutions actually helps provide clarity in one’s life. Providing us with a vision & and a plan for our future. They give us meaning, a higher purpose, a deeper reason for wanting to accomplish something. Not to mention they make us feel good. One of our most basic emotional reactions is happiness through pursuit. So the action of sticking to a goal until it is accomplished has its own sense of happiness attached to it. Lastly, goals and resolutions keep us connected. Connected to your inner desires, your friends, your family and even your community. Common goals are the foundational block on which we build communities!

Why Resolutions Fail?

First and foremost, we need to stop treating our resolutions like a sprint, when in reality, it is a marathon. The simplest of lessons is that slow & steady wins the race! Another reason why most people fail at committing to their resolutions is that they make too big of a resolution and have no real plan on how to accomplish it! Small changes stick better because they are not intimidating. So if you have a resolution that you want to accomplish by the end of the year, break it down to months, weeks, and then days. That way it will be small changes all working towards the ultimate end goal.

When you have a list of attainable goals and slowly start implementing them, you are more likely to succeed in accomplishing your resolution. I personally love getting a new habit tracker for each month to track the progress of my goals! Even the simple task of using a notebook and a pen will do the trick! All you need to do is record what you are doing each day to get you closer to your end goal and to keep track of your measurements in the process, that way you will have a visual of your progress and this will motivate you to keep going.

Another reason people fail at their resolutions is they don’t believe in themselves! A failure to act can cripple you before you even leave the starting line! Many of us don’t practice positive self-talk and it shows! You have to talk to yourself positively, always encouraging, fully believing in yourself and your abilities! What you believe becomes your reality! If you believe you will never slim down to your goal weight, not only are you sabotaging yourself, but you continue to put yourself down mentally, and then let yourself talk you out of doing what needs to be done to actually slim down! Your thoughts provoke your actions, so if you continuously tell yourself that you can’t, then the actions you take (or don’t take) will go along with your thought process. We must remember that our minds are always thinking and moving! It is either thinking positive thoughts to support you in your current goals, or going against you, there is no neutral, you must choose to think positive!

Another daunting reason of why most people tend to fail at their resolutions is they know their what, but not their why! In other words, they know what they want, but not why they want it. Your resolutions should be specific, vivid and time sensitive! All these only help to keep you motivated to keep going, because you know what you are working towards and why you are working towards it! Even when it gets hard, this “why” will keep you going and remind you of why you are sacrificing and working so hard every day! So it goes without saying, this should be emotional and deeply connected to you!

After going through the several reasons on why people don’t stick to their resolutions for the entirety of the year, these were just a few of the most common factors.

How Many Resolutions Should You Make?

Honestly, there is no real limit to how many resolutions you should or should not make in a given time span. Just as long as each one of them are attainable. In order to ensure that you need to make sure that you aren’t being vague when making them, and do not go into the resolution without a set plan of how it can be accomplished. Another tip when setting your resolutions for the year is to not overload yourself. Choose your plans and your goals according to what your main outcome is going to be. For example, if your main outcome at the end of the year is to lose weight, then make your resolutions in accordance with that main outcome! If your main outcome is to grow your business, then make small goals for how you’re going to do that and BE SPECIFIC!

In reality, anyone who puts their mind to it and actually puts in more than the minimal amount of effort is more than capable of accomplishing their resolutions. It’s all about mindset and making sure you set aside time for yourself this year! Don’t get swept away with the wind and only react to what is happening around you. Be the cause and effect in your life and take control!! Do not let yourself wake up this time next year to discover that you have made little to no progress on goals and resolutions that you claimed to be so important to you are your quality of life. Let’s make 2021 our year to get shit done!