Where I’ve Been Lately

Since I’ve been on hiatus, I felt it necessary to give you all a little update on what’s been happening in my life before fully diving back into the blogging world.

My Work

Last you all heard I was on my way to becoming a teacher, that is no longer the case anymore. Unfortunately I did not qualify to get my Certificate of Eligibility and I’m sorry but, I have no interest in returning to school, that chapter is closed permanently. So on to the next adventure! I am now working for a home mortgage company as a Loan Processor with one of my cousins! It seems to be the perfect fit for me, it gives me so much freedom to still have a life and be involved with my family and I actually love learning about all the processes and the industry itself. I told myself I would stick with this industry for the long run because I am extra tired of the job hunting. But the good thing about this job is that I love it and I can make this into a great career for myself and it still lets me appreciate my inner values of being with my family while still working towards my future goals !

My Family

As you all know, I lost my brother back in January. It has been a roller coaster of emotions, with its fair share of ups and downs. At first the family was all united but somewhere deep down I knew that wouldn’t last long. Some members have gone their separate ways, others I just needed to separate myself from the negativity for a while in order to help myself properly heal. I don’t think it’s selfish to make yourself the priority in your own life, especially when it comes to dealing with the grief of a close immediate family member. All I can do now is pray for them and love them from afar.

I’ve been on my own path, surrounding myself with like-minded people. Focusing on my goals and making sure that I appreciate every moment given to me. I make sure I’m extremely involved in my family and that I am creating memories with each and every person. Because honestly, the only thing that’s left behind when you’re gone, the memories you’ve shared and the love that was given.

My Current State of Mind

I’ve just been focusing on the here and now. I think of my brother literally all the time and I make sure I do my best to keep his memory alive. I’m making a scrapbook of him that’s very in detail of all our memories that we shared together. I spend pretty much all of my time with Maelyn and make sure she and Madison know they are loved and supported. I live life as if it were my last day, I have more sleepovers with my friends/family. I go to watch the sunrise at least once a month, I plan spontaneous trips to travel and to experience new things and I always tell my people that I love them. I also started CrossFit because I’m tired of waiting “to start tomorrow”, I want to be happy with myself both physically and mentally and it has been a great experience so far and I feel so much stronger and happier with myself.

Manny has truly taught me the meaning of “life is too short”, you hear it all the time and still believe that you are the exception. But no one is safe from time, it keeps going even when you don’t. So I try my best to enjoy all the little things and all the people who support and love me, the people that create my own personal safe haven from all the drama and distress in today’s world. I always do what I think is right in my heart and I always do what’s best for my mental health and well-being in the end. My motives are always aiming towards a more positive life, no drama just love and peace. I’m exactly the person I believe myself to be and I will keep being that person.

My Plans and The Blog

So my current plans for my future, which change often, are as follows. I plan to grow within my company and become a Loan Officer, something that’s already been in the works training wise and I’m so lucky to be in a company that believes in me and wants to see my succeed. I plan to continue being extremely involved with all my family members and I plan to continue furthering my knowledge by reading books and going to church and just experiencing things in life and truly living, not just letting time pass. I plan to keep going strong and make the vision that I have for myself and my family a reality. Whatever it takes.

This post is my official reactivation of the blog. I plan to only post weekly, because daily ended up feeling like a chore. Although the main focus of my blog is positivity I plan to incorporate more of my life and personal experiences into it, in hopes that I can make it more personable and relatable. I plan to stay consistent now that I am better adjusted to my new life and the new family additions and losses and I hope I can make a difference in someone’s life by speaking from the heart always.

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LEAVE SOME “WHITE SPACE” ON YOUR TO DO LISTS

I for one always love to fill up my entire to-do lists and then I began to feel crazed as I start to make my way down them. I’ve realized that I shouldn’t be overloading myself with tasks that don’t all have to be done in the same day! I’ve started making my lists for the week, rather than for the day and that has helped a lot .

It’s vital that we leave some time for ourselves to relax and regenerate. We don’t need to complete absolutely everything on our to-do lists each day so it’s important that we leave some white space on them. It’s almost impossible to always get everything done when you never leave time for yourself in the process, you will start to feel stressed, high-strung and tense because you never give yourself a break!

So spread out those to do lists, prioritize them: most important first to least important last. Spread them out to a week instead of just a day and always leave some free time or white space to relax and give yourself a break! You’ll find yourself feeling more accomplished and not so stressed which in turn is the more positive outcome for everyone involved.

Your Daily Prescription of Positivity: Give Yourself A Break

I know how easy it is to get caught up in the many things we need to accomplish within the span of 24 hours. Whether that be vigorous to-do lists, chores, errands, or even just going to work and completing all that needs to be done there!

Life can truly throw so much at us all at once. When you start to feel stressed out because you feel you need to get these things done and you just can’t seem to catch a break, stop for a minute and like I always say, TAKE A DEEP BREATH. Realize all that you have at that very moment, grasp the fact that you are ok in that moment. Everything is as it should be and there is no reason that you should need to complete everything all in one day.

Prioritize your to-do’s and make sure you give yourself some YOU time in between. Give yourself some time to unwind and relax and enjoy the life you’ve built for yourself. Remind yourself daily to not get so caught up in the hustle & bustle of life, it’s a hard thing to snap out of. Let’s slow it down a little to enjoy life more.