A SoulMate

This post is dedicated to my beautiful stepmother, who started out as a stranger and ended up becoming more than I could ever ask for, a soulmate.

Our first encounter happened just about 10 years ago now and never would I have imagined our relationship to evolve to what it is today. I am so eternally thankful for your love, your kindness, your compassion, your guidance, your friendship. Even though our journey started off with a lot of ups and downs, God knew exactly what he was doing when he introduced you into my life. He knew I needed you before I could even understand how. He knew that I needed your beautiful, light and airy soul to guide mine through the many trials in life and he knew that we both needed each other to reach the other side of our shared journeys.

The many adventures we have shared together, I treasure always. The advice you bestow upon me is invaluable and the love you fill me up with is undeniably priceless. Being a 20-something year old in this crazy post-COVID world, being on the hunt for my purpose, while searching for my own path and independence, I didn’t even recognize until recently, that God has already sent me my other half almost a decade ago. Living so closely with you this past year has only strengthened our relationship and solidified it even more. Being so close to someone who understands me down to my core and never passes judgment on me, someone who only wants to lift me up and help me find my way and someone who just gets it because they have been where I am. Learning you and your ways and bonding on a level that is so pure and true with no wonder of ulterior motives or judgement being passed. Being able to just truly be ourselves with each other is a true blessing. I finally feel like this world isn’t all bad if there are people like you that exist.

Someone I can go to for absolutely anything and have real and deep conversations with. Someone who vibes with me so flawlessly and undergoes the same type of thought processes as me, someone who sees this life in the same light that I do and who enjoys traveling frequently and laughing often, only striving to live the best version of life we can create for ourselves. Positivity as a Lifestyle is what perfectly describes the both of us. I have grown to see you flourish and change so much into such an amazing person, someone that I aspire to be just like and seeing that you can do it, only inspires me to keep going, even through the worst of times.

I wish you could see YOU through MY eyes, then you would understand just how much I love you and am inspired by you.

You are undeniably the person made for me, my own personal soulmate and I am so happy that we have been chosen to be linked in each other’s journeys. My real lesson from meeting you, is to always trust that God knows what he is doing and to trust the timing. The ones meant for you will arrive right when they are supposed to and change you in ways you didn’t even think possible.

I love you Jameen.

Positivity as a Lifestyle

I’ve worked endlessly learning how to evolve my mind to try to realize the bright side in every situation & to comprehend the fact that if you are in control of your mind you are essentially in control of everything that goes on in your life. So many people find it difficult to accept this small piece of knowledge because they wonder how that could possibly be true.

Well, being “in control” of your life does not mean you control what happens to you and when or where, it simply means that you have the control in HOW you react to every situation that occurs in your life. You can either choose to react in a negative manner, blowing up in a rage and doing or saying things that will not benefit you in your future and only cause more damage & harm. Or you can choose to react in a positive manner, by slowing down and taking a few deep breaths, thinking about how you will respond and then proceeding to the action, after it has been well thought out, leading to an overall more positive result.

Of course this skill does not develop overnight, this takes lots of trial and error & self-discipline to master and even then you will still find yourself slipping up every now and then. But the important thing is noticing when you are slipping up and correcting the mistake. I for one have put this into practice and have found myself being happier and overall more positive because why worry or anger yourself over something that you can not control? We all need to realize and focus on the parts of our lives that we can control and find peace and happiness in that alone.

I can’t remember how many times I heard something that messed up my plans in some sort of way and I instantly just exploded with anger. I felt the world was against me but now I realize that if I had just taken some time to slow down and think over the news, I would have been able to realize there were several positives to come out of the situation as well. It always depends on how you choose to look at things. Of course you can always point out every negative detail in the situation and just sit in your own little angry bubble but honestly, who is that really helping? It’s not helping the other party and it definitely is not helping you. If you can just sit down and work your hardest to find the “bright side” in every predicament you find yourself in you will noticeably evolve into a more positive person, just as I have myself. Do not allow things that are outside of your control affect you, that is how you win at life.

Another tip to really live up to the “Positivity as a Lifestyle” motto, always be kind to others. You never know what the other person may be going through, you don’t know their back story, you don’t know what they have on their plate or what kind of news they may have just received. My tip is to always be considerate and never pre-judge someone. If they are being rude to you for what seems like no reason, stop, think and then react with kindness in return, they will appreciate it in the long run and sometimes they may even stop in their tracks and apologize. It’s so simple to just be kind to those around you, to me it seems 10 times harder to hold a grudge with someone and to stay angry, let all of that go, forgive and move on with your life. Nobody is perfect and we are all going through our own personal struggles. I for one don’t ever want to add to the struggles of another human, I would rather be that light they confide in and are thankful for at the end of a long day.

These 2 small tips can literally have such a massive affect on every person in our community, so much that the world could even start to harmonize and find that flow of peace and happiness amongst themselves. A world with less drama, with less fighting, less arguing and less negativity would be such a wonderful place. I always strive to be an all around radiant soul, a light to others, don’t be the person that strives to be the opposite. I challenge you to complement one person every day, whether it be superficial, such as complementing their outfit, their hair or more genuine, complementing their personality, their mind. You will feel a deeper sense of happiness just from all the smiles you receive in return. I challenge you to tell everyone in your family you love them for no reason today, tell your friends how much you appreciate them. There shouldn’t have to be a reason to brighten up somebody else’s day, these are the things that humanity forgets. If we can remember to just be kind, positivity as a lifestyle wouldn’t seem so far fetched.