A SoulMate

This post is dedicated to my beautiful stepmother, who started out as a stranger and ended up becoming more than I could ever ask for, a soulmate.

Our first encounter happened just about 10 years ago now and never would I have imagined our relationship to evolve to what it is today. I am so eternally thankful for your love, your kindness, your compassion, your guidance, your friendship. Even though our journey started off with a lot of ups and downs, God knew exactly what he was doing when he introduced you into my life. He knew I needed you before I could even understand how. He knew that I needed your beautiful, light and airy soul to guide mine through the many trials in life and he knew that we both needed each other to reach the other side of our shared journeys.

The many adventures we have shared together, I treasure always. The advice you bestow upon me is invaluable and the love you fill me up with is undeniably priceless. Being a 20-something year old in this crazy post-COVID world, being on the hunt for my purpose, while searching for my own path and independence, I didn’t even recognize until recently, that God has already sent me my other half almost a decade ago. Living so closely with you this past year has only strengthened our relationship and solidified it even more. Being so close to someone who understands me down to my core and never passes judgment on me, someone who only wants to lift me up and help me find my way and someone who just gets it because they have been where I am. Learning you and your ways and bonding on a level that is so pure and true with no wonder of ulterior motives or judgement being passed. Being able to just truly be ourselves with each other is a true blessing. I finally feel like this world isn’t all bad if there are people like you that exist.

Someone I can go to for absolutely anything and have real and deep conversations with. Someone who vibes with me so flawlessly and undergoes the same type of thought processes as me, someone who sees this life in the same light that I do and who enjoys traveling frequently and laughing often, only striving to live the best version of life we can create for ourselves. Positivity as a Lifestyle is what perfectly describes the both of us. I have grown to see you flourish and change so much into such an amazing person, someone that I aspire to be just like and seeing that you can do it, only inspires me to keep going, even through the worst of times.

I wish you could see YOU through MY eyes, then you would understand just how much I love you and am inspired by you.

You are undeniably the person made for me, my own personal soulmate and I am so happy that we have been chosen to be linked in each other’s journeys. My real lesson from meeting you, is to always trust that God knows what he is doing and to trust the timing. The ones meant for you will arrive right when they are supposed to and change you in ways you didn’t even think possible.

I love you Jameen.

VISION BOARDS

What is a vision board and why should you have one?

A vision board is something that you can use to pin up all your wants and desires that your little heart can think up! It’s something to remind you of what you are working towards or what you’re grateful of. It’s a physical/digital reminder that has the purpose of motivating you, even on the hardest of days.

A vision board is meant to be inspiring, so don’t put any negative connotations on there. For example, if your goal is to lose weight, you wouldn’t want to “motivate” yourself by putting the worst picture of yourself up there. You would want to post a picture of yourself when you feel you were your most healthiest and if you don’t have one, go through some magazines and find someone with similar features and the goal body you want and use that one. This can be applied to all aspects of whatever you post onto your vision board. The goal is to uplift and build up your confidence, not to tear yourself down or be reminded of any failures.

Another quick tip before you get to work. A vision board is not limited by fears or what ifs or the word “impossible”. A vision board is to put any single thing that you desire and know you can get if you just worked hard enough. So don’t dull it down by your “reality” of things, because anything can be accomplished if you work for it. If you change the way you think, it will change your beliefs and in turn, it will change your reality.

So let all your heart’s desires come out with your vision board and start manifesting everything you want in your life!

How to make your own vision board!

So now let’s get into the good stuff! How to make your own vision board!

  1. Determine the main goal or goals that you are creating your vision board for.
  2. Find magazines, clip art, specific images from the internet or Pinterest that you can contribute to your vision board that goes towards your end goal.
  3. The tedious task of actually cutting out said images.
    1. I’ve found that making the vision board in collage form is more beneficial than square cut pictures, yes it takes more time on the cutting but it will totally be worth it!
  4. Start arranging your pictures on your board and get a feel for how you want the layout to be like.
  5. Take a quick picture of how your board looks like once you’ve added all your images so you have something to reference if they move out of place.
  6. Now, find a glue stick, some double-sided tape or even some Mod Podge glue and start sticking them down! Stick them down with some purpose! You don’t want anything falling off!
  7. BONUS: I like to throw some glitter on top of mine as the finishing touch
  8. Now hang that bad boy up where you will see it EVERY. DAMN. DAY! To remind yourself of what you’re working for and to keep you motivated and inspired!

HAPPY VISION BOARDING!

Self Love: What is It & Why is It Important?

We’ve all heard the term “self-love” before, but many of us don’t really know what it means. Some people think it’s just the hashtag used on social media, “Self-care Sundays”, where all you do is a facial and take a long bath to relax after a long stressful week. That can very well be one part of of self love, but that is not at all the full depiction of the true meaning of self love. So what is the true definition of self love and why is it important?? Let’s dive in!

What is Self Love?

Self love means having a high regard for your own well-being and happiness. It means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others. That is just a very generic definition but self love can mean something different for every person. If you are taking action to take care of your mind, your body and your soul, that is you protecting your well-being in life. That is you creating a better future for yourself by ensuring that you are healthy on the inside as well as the outside. Some people meditate, some people have weekly or daily reflections, some people take the initiative to consistently workout, read, journal. There are so many different aspects on the question of “what is self love”. The important thing is that you get all the definitions and define it yourself, create your own version of self love and practice it religiously.

Why Self love is so Important

Let’s start with my own personal version of self love. I like to wake up early every morning, workout, eat a healthy breakfast, listen to a podcast episode of my choice, read for 20 minutes minimum, journal and then meditate. I personally have a very vigorous self love routine and this is merely just my morning routine. But I consistently stick to this routine because I have noticed a difference in not only my personality, but my mindset and my health as well! I am very grateful to work for myself and to make my own hours so I do find it easier to make more time for my self love routine and being consistent with it.

Now…. Let’s talk excuses! I know very many people have to actually drive to work, or have children that get up early and they have to help them get ready for school and even if we are working from home, we find ourselves in the same struggle of “not having enough time”. Well, let me snap you out of that terrible habit right now and say the following. If you do not make time for yourself throughout the day, if you do not make it a priority to take 60, 30, 15 or even 10 minutes out of your day, every day, to reflect on what YOU want, to think about YOUR future and to remember what YOU are grateful for, then you will find yourself being stuck in the same endless cycles of life for years and years to come! When you neglect your own well-being to please those around you, you are really only putting a disservice on those people around you, because if you are not reaching your full potential, what makes you think those around you will? You must lead by example and put yourself first!

We all need some time to ourselves, we all have daily stressors and responsibilities, but it is those 1% of people who intentionally make time for themselves to focus on their well-being, that live a full and joyful life and are truly happy. They do not settle for the current circumstances that no longer serve them, they do not wait around for “luck” to change their situation, they do not wish they could do this and that and then make several excuses as to why it’s simply impossible for them to do something. It is NEVER impossible to do something, it is simply your mindset surrounding the thing itself. If you truly believe in the importance of self love and what it can do for your life, you will make time for it. For example, let’s replace the phrase “I don’t have the time for self love” with “I don’t see the value in working towards and accomplishing my dreams for my future”, that just makes you cringe a little bit! If you can read that and still feel fine then I cannot relate, honestly. I find it extremely scary of living the same day on repeat with no hope for my future. We were all put on this Earth for a reason, to express our passions and reach our full potential in life, we were not placed here to merely exist.

Self love is going to make all the difference in your life, when you find an amazing book and apply what you learn, it’s those little changes that will evolve into a huge and life changing difference! When you listen to those little podcast episodes every morning when you are showering or driving to work, it will leave you feeling more motivated, positive and ready to conquer the day. Wouldn’t it be nice to be in control of your life again? That is what self love is! Self love gives you the keys to your life, the power to turn pain into purpose and the power of responding in a constructive way to the hard times in life. Everything and everyone has a purpose in life and it is up to that person if they choose to reach their full potential or not. If they choose to put in the time and dedication to be the person they aspire to be. If they choose to use their talents and put it to good use!